When A Surprise Visit Turns Into A Fairytale Engagement

June 25th, 2014

Once in a while, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairytale.

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I’ve always loved that saying. And thinking back on it now, I can’t believe that life gave me a fairytale.

On June 11th (this is funny looking back at this because, little did I know that in two years I’d be getting married on the same day) I went to Fargo with my sister for a girl’s day filled with back massages, Chinese food, manicures, and arial yoga. That’s a perfect combination for a lovely day!fairytales, Long Distance Relationships, surprise visits, love, Devin Berglund, Johan Joubert, Engagement, Proposal

Later that night we were going to pick up my sister’s friend from college, at the airport. She’d been planning to come out to visit for the summer. At the airport, we waited for her to get off the plane. I was told to look for a small blonde girl, and I swear I hadn’t seen one small blonde girl. She never came. In hindsight, it was also odd, because my sister and parents were acting a little strange. They seemed to be acting too excited for my sister’s friend to be arriving. I continued watching for her, but all of a sudden a guy came up to me. At first I felt like someone was invading my personal bubble, but then when I realized who it was I jumped out of my skin.

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He had told me he was going to visit his parents in Perth, Australia. (At that time he lived in Brisbane, Australia.) So he orchestrated the whole visit with my parents and his. He had to account for the moments he was on the plane, so he even had his mom text me something like “Hello Love, I arrived in Perth. My phone died, so just thought I’d text ya from my mum’s phone to let you know I made it. I’m going to bed now! Love you!”

I didn’t even question it.

He really got me good. They all did.
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A Letter To The Couple In A Long Distance Relationship

This is a letter to the couple in a long-distance relationship. If you are in a long-distance relationship, you are in the right place. Or do you know a couple in a long-distance relationship? Shoot this to a friend who might be in one.

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Dear Couple In A Long-Distance Relationship,

I want you to know you aren’t alone.

Even on those really hard days when all you need is a hug from your partner, but you can’t because you aren’t in the same place. Believe me, I know how you feel. I was right where you are, two years ago. And we were in one for a total of 5.5 years.

There were many beautiful times and some hard times as well.

Sometimes we were apart for longer and other times we got to see each other more frequently.

There were people who understood us and our journey, while there were some who didn’t get it and questioned us. And rudely. But I want you to know, people can be small minded when it comes to things they aren’t familiar with. Don’t blame them. Be patient with them. Smile and wave.

There were people who believed in us and others who didn’t want it to work out.

But the most important thing was… that we saw each other as important and that we MADE time for each other.

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1 Year Wedding Anniversary

I’ve been married for a year.

It’s so hard to believe that the last year has gone by so fast.

Over the past year, we went through a ton of different things. I love this adventure we are in together. I wouldn’t want to do this life with anyone else.

Wanted to celebrate June 11th (Which was yesterday… I was on the road and couldn’t publish this because I was in and out of WIFI.) and share some pictures from our special day last year!! We had such a lovely day! I’ll forever hold these memories close to my heart! So thankful!

In Our First Year Of Marriage We:

  • Took countless trips to fun places: South Dakota, Montana, Duluth, M.N., Medora, N.D., and Minneapolis & Itasca, M.N. as well!
  • Went to a blogger conference. My husband was the most supportive husband there. He was so supportive of me there.

For The Many Adventures Ahead…

It’s been a year and I look forward to the many years (& adventures) ahead.

 

Some Things You Might Want To Know About Being In A Long-Distance Relationship

Are you in a long-distance relationship? If so, there are just a couple of things you might want to know about being in a long-distance relationship.

Some things you might want to know…

Tip #1: Quiet is okay.

Make sure that you know that when talking if there’s ever those little quiet spots that sometimes feel like awkward silences. Don’t worry about those. It’s perfectly normal.

Don’t get worried and think “Oh no we don’t have anything to say to each other.” Or “What’s wrong with our relationship?” Even in times when we are together like now, there are moments when she’s reading a book and I’m watching TV. We are sitting on the couch together. We aren’t chatting, but we are just being together. So why are we expecting this to be different with long distance relationships? You can be on Skype, just being there with each other and still do your own thing. You don’t have to chat the whole time. So don’t worry about that. It’s all right.

Tip #2: Your social life might change a bit.

When we started dating and went into the long distance Johan told me he didn’t always feel like he fit in with his single friends anymore because they’d go places and do things that didn’t fit with him anymore, since he was in a relationship now. And with couples as well—like friends who were married or in serious relationships—he didn’t fit in there either because he was missing half of his relationship. It just didn’t feel right.

If you ever feel like that, you may be in an awkward situation there. Anticipate this and be ready for it, because it might happen. But it’s normal.

Related Reading: A-Zs of Surviving A Long-Distance Relationship

Tip #3: Don’t let judge-y people bother you.

There’s been so many times in our long distance relationship within the 5.5 years, where people have said things that have really been hurtful and I think that people don’t really realize that these things can come across (hurtful) mean.

They’d say things like:

What are you going to do now?

Who is going to move?

Are you sure that he’s not cheating on you? (I was never asked this question, but know a friend who was.)

People in long-distance relationships are already thinking about those things anyways. They don’t want other people to remind them of those things.

Don’t let it get to you. I don’t think they mean those things in a bad way, they are just ignorant, and they just say things. Don’t worry about it. Shake off the dust and just move on. You know what you have in your relationship and just believe in it.

If you know someone who is in a long-distance relationship here are some things you shouldn’t say.

Tip #4: Don’t get scared of the future.

Yes, it’s okay to look to the future, but don’t let it freak you out too much. Johan said in the video, “I let it happen to us about one year into our relationship and it almost had some very bad consequences. Because I got scared of what was coming.”

Instead just set short term goals like “When are we going to see each other again?” and little things like that. Work toward those and also concentrate on living just every day life – day by day. Work on your relationship then and make it as good as possible, as strong as possible, because that’s where you’re at, at that moment. Make the most of it. Enjoy where you’re at. It might not be the ideal situation, but you can still enjoy your relationship and make it as good and as strong as you can.

If you want to make your long distance relationship THRIVE and you want to build a wolf pack-a community of people who are going to surround you and help you through everything that is ahead in this long distance relationship journey, then be sure to follow our YouTube channel.

What are some things you’ve learned about being in a long-distance relationship?

How To Make A Long-Distance Relationship Work Once The Distance Ends

Congratulations! You’ve just survived a long-distance relationship. The hardest part is over. You reached across the distance and held onto each other and now you are together in the same place.

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What To Do Now, Since The Long-Distance Is Over

You just defied the social norms and made your long-distance relationship work. You are finally together! You aren’t separated anymore, which is great, but it’s different and it will take time to get used to each other’s quirks. It’s normal to go through a little phase where there will be a couple small quibbles and misunderstandings about small things you both like or don’t like.

That’s the thing with any relationship though, there will be small little problems and small victories, but the great thing is that you get to work through it together in the same place, which in the long run is much better than across the distance. And yay, for making it to a place where you can work on those things in the same place.

Trust me it will get easier once you both work together and listen to each others likes, dislikes, and thoughts.

There is no longer that separation between the two of you, called distance. When you were separated by distance, if there was a problem you could get off the phone or Skype with each other and you could go do your own thing and not really worry about the problem. But now when there is a fight you have to share the space with each other and learn how to work together to make things turn out right.

What You Can Do To Make The Non-Distance Work

Here are a couple things you can do to make the transition from distance to no distance sweeter.

  1. Pay attention to each other and talk things through.
  2. If certain things bother you about your partner, like how they do something around the house, let them know in a kind way.
  3. If there are things that bother you about each other, plan a family meeting for once a week where you can talk out the issues in a respectful manner. The main thing is that you continue to show respect to each other when talking about problems.
  4. Pray and read the Bible together.
  5. If your partner says “If you could please do this for me… or it bothers me when…” Listen and don’t argue. Take it as a kind request and know there is a reason why it probably bothers your partner. There is no need to argue.
  6. Do special things together to grow your relationship like: Get take-out and have a picnic on the living-room floor and go for a walk together after work.
  7. When your partner is talking, really listen. Set down what you are doing and pay attention to what is being said. Give your partner your full attention. This makes a person feel loved.
  8. If you have the day off and your partner is working today, clean the house, so it’s nice and clean for when your partner gets home. Then they won’t feel stressed when they get home and you’ll have a relaxing evening together.
  9. Do small little wonderful things for each other. Get her some flowers and chocolate just because. Or get him a gift that he’d enjoy.

The main thing to making a long-distance relationship work after the distance is just to continue going the distance for each other. Thankfully you don’t have to hate being held apart by distance any longer. Sometimes people forget that even though you are together now, that you don’t have to go the distance for each other anymore.

Wrong!

If you continue to go the distance for your love, then you’ll not only make the non-distance work, you’ll thrive!

Remember, this is a great thing! You survived the actual distance.

What things do you do to show your partner you love them?

Instagram Tips To Make Your Life Easier & More Insta Worthy

I always feel like Instagram is a mini vacation away from everyday life in the form of pictures.

Instagram is a fun and relaxing way to share your world with the rest of the world. You can share what it’s like from your point of view. In this blog post, I want to share with you some of my favorite Instagram tips, that will make your Instagram sparkle and shine.

1. First Off, Go On An Adventure!

It’s important that you share the goals you want to accomplish and also the steps you are taking to get there. The adventure is made up of the steps it takes to get you there.

This week I am sharing Instagram tips here on Instagram! Be sure to follow me and join the fun! Tip of the day! Take action. Do. Start now. Go on an adventure. 1. You only have one life. Go out into life with all you’ve got!! 2. Start now with your goals and dreams. In wildlife photography you’ll miss the perfect shot if you wait too long because the animals will move. So take the shot right away. Take a few. This is the same for reaching goals. Want to write a book? Start now. Finish it!! 3. Look for opportunity. In this photo, I am in Death Valley, California. We climbed sand dunes and my fiancé got a perfect shot. 4. Don’t miss out!! Photo Credit: Johan Joubert Sign up for an AWESOME FREE Instagram course:bit.ly/1gK4jLY (Or click the link in my Instagram bio!) #instagood #instadaily #instagram #VSCOcam #vsco #moon #California #deathvalley #country #socialmedia #socialmediamarketing #reach #friend #friendship #friends #marketing #writing #amwriting #writinglife #amwriting #photography #Nikon #nature #natureismymuse #marketingtips #color #design #darling #darlingmovement #deathvalleynationalpark #sanddunes

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2. Use Some Color

Something that’s really important on Instagram is that you keep all your pictures in a color spectrum or theme. Try to make sure that your last eight photos match in a certain way.

Some people keep using a color throughout and then change it up in the next eight images.

This week I am sharing Instagram tips here on Instagram! Be sure to follow me and join the fun! Color. Find your color scheme. It’s important that you make your pictures all feel like they belong together. And that they fit in with your bio. Could a person look at your last photos and be able to tell you what you do? If so, you’re doing a great job!! Use The app Adobe Color to figure out your color scheme. You can even use it to find colors to use in Photoshop or other programs. Check it out! It’s a really cool app!! Also, check out the FREE Instagram course on the clickable link, in my bio. #instagood #instadaily #instagram #VSCOcam #vsco #moon #Minnesota #country #socialmedia #socialmediamarketing #reach #friend #friendship #friends #marketing #writing #amwriting #writinglife #amwriting #photography #Nikon #nature #natureismymuse #marketingtips #color #design

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3. Share Something NEW!

Share something you aren’t sharing on other social platforms. When you share something new and exciting you aren’t sharing elsewhere online people will want to follow you to learn more, because you are giving them useful content that they can use.

This week I am sharing Instagram tips here on Instagram! Be sure to follow me and join the fun! Share. Some people have a tough time figuring out what they want to share on Instagram. 1. Share something you aren’t sharing on other social platforms. When you share new and exciting things you aren’t sharing elsewhere people will want to follow you to learn more, because you are giving them useful content that they can use. That creates trust. 2. When you are photographing think of what will look pleasing to the eye. You want colorful and fresh images to grab the eye. Come back tomorrow for more Instagram tips! While you are waiting, start sharing something you aren’t sharing on other social media platforms. Also, check out the FREE Instagram course on the clickable link, in my bio. #instagood #instadaily #instagram #VSCOcam #vsco #moon #Minnesota #country #socialmedia #socialmediamarketing #reach #friend #friendship #friends #marketing #writing #amwriting #writinglife #amwriting #photography #Nikon #nature #natureismymuse #marketingtips

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4. Reach & Show People You Care!

Reach out and connect with other people. The most important thing in social media and marketing is to focus on the relationships and friendships! That’s really the only thing that is important—relationships. It’s not about numbers or page views.

It’s about connection to other people who are interested in the same things you are. Building a community is super important!

  1. Check out the people who follow you and join the conversation. Just get to know them. And do not name drop your blog, or Facebook page, or the book you wrote, in their comments. That’s tacky and will turn off people around you!
  2. When people comment on your pictures or comment back to you on other people’s pictures make sure you comment back. Show people you genuinely care!
  3. Don’t write “Cool! Follow back.” on people’s Instagram comments, as it’s rude. Honestly, when people write this on my posts, I just delete the comment and avoid the person.

This week I will be sharing Instagram tips on my Instagram page! Make sure you follow me and join the fun! Instagram Tip Number One: Reach. Reach out and connect with other people. All social media and marketing is focused on relationships and friendships! It’s not about numbers or page views. It’s about connection to other people who are interested in the same things you are. Building a community is super important! 1. Check out the people who follow you and join the conversation. Just get to know them. And do not name drop your blog, or Facebook page, or the book you wrote, in their comments. That’s tacky and will turn off people around you! 2. When people comment on your pictures or comment back to you on other people’s pictures make sure you comment back. Show people you genuinely care! Come back tomorrow for more Instagram tips! But, while you’re waiting… Reach out to the people around you! #instagood #instagram #instadaily #VSCOcam #redrockcanyon #redrockNV #socialmediamarketing #socialmedia #reach #friendship #friends #marketing #writing #writinglife #amwriting #photography #Nikon #Nature #natureismymuse #marketingtips

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5. Tidy Up Your Hashtags

I’ve found that it’s difficult to have a calming aesthetic when you have to read captions that are filled with tons of different hashtags. And then when there are a bunch of hashtags at the bottom as well.

If you’d like to clean up your hashtags, read on for a great tip!

 

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See what I did there?

All you have to do is:

1. Go to your notes app.

2. Type 5 periods in a row like this:
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#InsertHashtagHere #YourHashtagGoesHere #HashtagHere #AndYouProbablyGetTheHashtagPoint.

3. Then copy that and paste it into a comment under your picture.

6. Heart People’s Comments!

Show your commenters that you appreciate their comments by clicking the heart button and also responding with a heart-felt response.

7. Save Insta Posts With Bookmarking

If you want to find people’s posts quicker all you need to do is bookmark it. In order to do that, click the photo you want to bookmark and then click the bookmark icon.

 

When on your Instagram page you’ll be able to find all your bookmarked images by clicking on the bookmark icon shown below.

You’ll then see all your pictures bookmarked images here.

9. Share An Insta Guest! (& for bonus fun Insta guest on someone else’s page.)

Have guests on your Instagram page and offer to do the same for them. Make sure that their Instagram post matches your Instagram feed style. Set up a theme you’d like them to follow on their post as well as the hashtags. Then set a day to publish their post and visa-versa.

Make sure you get these things from them.

  1. Picture
  2. Topic of post?
  3. Caption:
  4. Hashtags:

Now you’ve got some fun ideas to freshen up your Instagram feed.

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How To Encourage Someone To Travel Abroad

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See the little green drop point? That is where I studied abroad. In Sippy Downs, Queensland Australia (Near Brisbane)

I never thought I’d fly half way around the world. The idea of it frightened me.

In High-School, I met many exchange students. I could describe most of them in this way: full of life, young, living with families they didn’t know, and most likely they spoke a different language. I am sure you know what I mean?

Me, Silvia, and Cassidy (My sister) with Leif Erickson (A Viking Statue, in Minot North Dakota)
Me, Silvia, and Cassidy (My sister) with Leif Erickson (A Viking Statue, in Minot North Dakota)

I was always drawn to these people because there was something drastically and beautifully different about them. Not just because they were from other countries and that their accents were gorgeous! But because they’d seen so much of the world and in my eyes they were much further ahead than those who had never been out of their state.

It was one day in the library at my Middle School that changed my  8th grade year. Her name was Silvia Atanosava. And she became my best friend that year!

My family took her under our wing. It was almost like I had a big sister. She was an exchange student from Bulgaria which, before meeting her I had never even heard of.

After seeing her come here on her own, I found myself thinking, “Maybe, I will go study and travel abroad someday as well.”
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If your answer was yes to any of these questions, read on – because I have some things that will help you reach your dreams. 

While in Mexico on a family vacation in 2009, I decided I wanted to stay there and maybe study abroad. As soon as I got home I looked into the qualifications of studying abroad in certain countries.

I’d studied Spanish in High-School, but hadn’t been speaking it or listening to it for a few years.

Which got me thinking… Hmm… where is it warm… and where they also speak English.

Only one place hopped into my mind as swiftly as a kangaroo.

It was a continent and country of it’s own. A red country full of desert, a country full of accents, Kangaroos, Koalas,  Dingos, and giant poisonous spiders and snakes. Or at least that is what I thought!

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What Hollywood Forgot to Tell You About Long Distance Relationships

I had a great year abroad, but soon I had to go home.

I was halfway between Hawaii and Australia when all I wanted to do was jump out of the plane to ease the restlessness in my legs. I walked down the aisle every few hours and that wasn’t enough.

Couldn’t I be there already? I aimlessly scrolled through the movies and found countless romantic comedies about couples living oceans apart. I chuckled silently, while thinking, Hollywood doesn’t even have a clue when it comes to what long distance relationship couples go through.

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Long distance relationships are romanticised much like everything else in Hollywood. Hollywood knows about the excitement and beauty of long distance relationships, but they stop there. They really don’t show the truth behind the long distance relationship story!

Many people fall for someone with a different accent thinking it will be easy like it is in the movies. And long distance relationships can in fact, be blessings, the couple just needs to equip themselves properly.

Communication is the key

It’s extremely important for those in long distance relationships to keep their communication line open. Technology has made it easier for people in long distance relationships.

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Technology shortens the distance. Whether a person is across the country from their lover or across the world… communication will hold them together. Whether that be through text messages, snail mail, Skype, or picture texts  of each other throughout the day. Continue reading “What Hollywood Forgot to Tell You About Long Distance Relationships”

Show You Love – A Challenge

I want the people around me to know that I love them. Just yesterday, my great uncle Arnold passed away. He’d been dealing with Alzheimers/dementia and was in a nursing home. It makes me sad. I really hope he knew he was loved by his sisters and their kids and grandkids.

Love, love others, Devin Berglund

This brought me to think about all the people in my life.

I don’t want there to be a shadow of a doubt in their minds, about whether I loved them or not. I want them to know. Continue reading “Show You Love – A Challenge”

5 Things I Hate About Long Distance Relationships

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There are many amazing things about being with someone you love. But sometimes It can be hard, especially when you are separated by an ocean. Here are 5 things I hate about long distance relationships & some things that will help you through them.

1. Saying “See You Later” at The Airport

It’s one of the worst feelings a person in a long distance relationship can experience.

You embrace one another tightly. Almost as though you’ll never let go, but then you must.

Que: tears…

You watch them go into security. They move farther and farther away from you until you can’t see them anymore. Continue reading “5 Things I Hate About Long Distance Relationships”