It’s that bittersweet time of the year again, isn’t it?
It’s the time of the year where there are parties and get together’s. Your work might even host a dinner or get together, but since you are in a long-distance relationship, your partner isn’t here and if you are going to attend, you will have to attend without your plus one. That makes for a lot of awkward moments and stares. Maybe not, but that’s at least how it feels when you see your coworker with her husband or your boss with his wife. Everyone has their partner there, except for you.
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I know how hard this is. Your partner would be there in a heartbeat if they could, but it’s just they aren’t able to, because of where they are and where you are. Distance can be a jerk sometimes.
This is a letter to the couple in a long-distance relationship. If you are in a long-distance relationship, you are in the right place. Or do you know a couple in a long-distance relationship? Shoot this to a friend who might be in one.
Dear Couple In A Long-Distance Relationship,
I want you to know you aren’t alone.
Even on those really hard days when all you need is a hug from your partner, but you can’t because you aren’t in the same place. Believe me, I know how you feel. I was right where you are, two years ago. And we were in one for a total of 5.5 years.
There were many beautiful times and some hard times as well.
Sometimes we were apart for longer and other times we got to see each other more frequently.
My name is Devin Joubert, which is pronounced “yo-bear” like if you were to say: “Yo! Bear, what’s up!” My maiden name (Berglund) is Scandinavian, so it was a big change to the french last name. But I love it all the same. I am from the American midwest and am usually asked about where I’m from because of my accent. I live in Fargo, N.D., yes, like the movie. (But, I don’t think we really talk like that.)
In 2010, I went to study abroad, on the Sunshine Cost of Australia. That’s on the East Coast, if you are unfamiliar with Australia’s geography.
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I sat at my parent’s kitchen table with a large checklist in front of me and the list of people we were inviting to our wedding. Emotions and events from the week had snuck up and weighed me down. It really overwhelmed me. And since my then fiancé was too far away to give me a hug, it was just harder than it needed to be.
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Wedding planning can go a little like that. Emotions. And it doesn’t help even more when outside stresses push on you as well.
It’s so hard to believe that the last year has gone by so fast.
Over the past year, we went through a ton of different things. I love this adventure we are in together. I wouldn’t want to do this life with anyone else.
Wanted to celebrate June 11th (Which was yesterday… I was on the road and couldn’t publish this because I was in and out of WIFI.) and share some pictures from our special day last year!! We had such a lovely day! I’ll forever hold these memories close to my heart! So thankful!
Just as there are pro’s in every situation, there are also con’s. These will be good to know so that you and your partner can stand up against them and thrive across the distance. Here are a couple of the different con’s to being in a long-distance relationship:
Con #1: You can’t get a hug when you need one.
Con #2: You have to save up and plan ahead, in order, to see each other.
Con #3: You have to plan when to chat inside of time zones.
Con #4: Normal events aren’t as fun because they aren’t there with you.
Con #5: You don’t get to learn your person’s everyday things, especially if you’ve never visited their home and the place when they live.
Con #6: Airport good-byes!
No matter the difference between the Pro’s and Con’s, I’m happier everyday that Johan and I made it work.