Congratulations! You’ve just survived a long-distance relationship. The hardest part is over. You reached across the distance and held onto each other and now you are together in the same place.
What To Do Now, Since The Long-Distance Is Over
You just defied the social norms and made your long-distance relationship work. You are finally together! You aren’t separated anymore, which is great, but it’s different and it will take time to get used to each other’s quirks. It’s normal to go through a little phase where there will be a couple small quibbles and misunderstandings about small things you both like or don’t like.
That’s the thing with any relationship though, there will be small little problems and small victories, but the great thing is that you get to work through it together in the same place, which in the long run is much better than across the distance. And yay, for making it to a place where you can work on those things in the same place.
Trust me it will get easier once you both work together and listen to each others likes, dislikes, and thoughts.
There is no longer that separation between the two of you, called distance. When you were separated by distance, if there was a problem you could get off the phone or Skype with each other and you could go do your own thing and not really worry about the problem. But now when there is a fight you have to share the space with each other and learn how to work together to make things turn out right.
What You Can Do To Make The Non-Distance Work
Here are a couple things you can do to make the transition from distance to no distance sweeter.
- Pay attention to each other and talk things through.
- If certain things bother you about your partner, like how they do something around the house, let them know in a kind way.
- If there are things that bother you about each other, plan a family meeting for once a week where you can talk out the issues in a respectful manner. The main thing is that you continue to show respect to each other when talking about problems.
- Pray and read the Bible together.
- If your partner says “If you could please do this for me… or it bothers me when…” Listen and don’t argue. Take it as a kind request and know there is a reason why it probably bothers your partner. There is no need to argue.
- Do special things together to grow your relationship like: Get take-out and have a picnic on the living-room floor and go for a walk together after work.
- When your partner is talking, really listen. Set down what you are doing and pay attention to what is being said. Give your partner your full attention. This makes a person feel loved.
- If you have the day off and your partner is working today, clean the house, so it’s nice and clean for when your partner gets home. Then they won’t feel stressed when they get home and you’ll have a relaxing evening together.
- Do small little wonderful things for each other. Get her some flowers and chocolate just because. Or get him a gift that he’d enjoy.
The main thing to making a long-distance relationship work after the distance is just to continue going the distance for each other. Thankfully you don’t have to hate being held apart by distance any longer. Sometimes people forget that even though you are together now, that you don’t have to go the distance for each other anymore.
If you continue to go the distance for your love, then you’ll not only make the non-distance work, you’ll thrive!
Remember, this is a great thing! You survived the actual distance.
What things do you do to show your partner you love them?