If you are reading this, then there’s a good chance you know someone in a long-distance relationship (LDR). Maybe it’s your daughter or son, a sibling, a parent, a friend, or even a co-worker.
You want to help and encourage them. You want them to know that you are there and believe in them.
Having been in a long-distance relationship, I know how fragile and unprotected from the stupidness of the world you can be (the couples in LDRs). One of the most annoying things, is when people doubt the relationship all together. They show it through their facial expressions. And it hurts.
That’s why it’s super important to know how to bless and serve the LDR couple in your life, because words and sour experiences have an affect on the couple in the long-distance relationship, whether people know it or not.
In this post, I’ll also share with you, what you should and shouldn’t do. After reading this, you’ll also know how to educate others on loving those in long-distance relationships better.
What You Can Do…
- Listen to them when they talk.
- Bless them with money or help them raise money. (Sometimes they won’t mention how difficult it is to get tickets to go see each other.)
- Ask about their partner and how they are? Ask questions like, “What school does he go to?” or “What does she do for a living?”
- Ultimately be there for them. Show them you care.
- Send them messages to let them know that you are thinking of them.
- Encourage them.
Note to understand: Understand that a couple in a long distance relationship is just like couples who are in the same place, except they can’t get a hug from each other when having a bad day. Which makes it even harder.
- Ask them “Who is moving?” (They won’t know this sometimes. It will only inflict worry and stress on them.)
- Ask them “What are you going to do now?” (They sometimes won’t know this answer either. And goodness gracious don’t ask them, “What are you going to do now? Break up?” I mean, what kind of a question is that? It’s a rude one. And just so you know, a pastor once asked me that. I stopped going to that church after.)
- Don’t let your doubts affect their actions, thoughts, or moods. Don’t make faces or say things like “That’s interesting.” with doubt in your voice. Never compare their relationship to “normal relationships” (Instead say something like: same-city relationships.)
Oddly, I feel like the world isn’t completely comfortable with the idea of people dating across the distance. You’d think people would be more open to it, with it being a very tech-savvy world that we are living in.
Here are some of the ways people treat couples in long-distance relationships and sometimes unknowingly:
- Stink eye
- Noticeable judgements
- Being against the relationship right away, because it’s not “normal” and they aren’t in the same place.
- People looking down on you because they think you are too young and oblivious to real life and love.
- Rude statements and not having enough grace.
- Asking difficult questions that the couple probably hasn’t figured out yet.
What are some things that you’ve done to bless and serve the long-distance relationship couple in your life?
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