Some Things You Might Want To Know About Being In A Long-Distance Relationship

Are you in a long-distance relationship? If so, there are just a couple of things you might want to know about being in a long-distance relationship.

Some things you might want to know…

Tip #1: Quiet is okay.

Make sure that you know that when talking if there’s ever those little quiet spots that sometimes feel like awkward silences. Don’t worry about those. It’s perfectly normal.

Don’t get worried and think “Oh no we don’t have anything to say to each other.” Or “What’s wrong with our relationship?” Even in times when we are together like now, there are moments when she’s reading a book and I’m watching TV. We are sitting on the couch together. We aren’t chatting, but we are just being together. So why are we expecting this to be different with long distance relationships? You can be on Skype, just being there with each other and still do your own thing. You don’t have to chat the whole time. So don’t worry about that. It’s all right.

Tip #2: Your social life might change a bit.

When we started dating and went into the long distance Johan told me he didn’t always feel like he fit in with his single friends anymore because they’d go places and do things that didn’t fit with him anymore, since he was in a relationship now. And with couples as well—like friends who were married or in serious relationships—he didn’t fit in there either because he was missing half of his relationship. It just didn’t feel right.

If you ever feel like that, you may be in an awkward situation there. Anticipate this and be ready for it, because it might happen. But it’s normal.

Related Reading: A-Zs of Surviving A Long-Distance Relationship

Tip #3: Don’t let judge-y people bother you.

There’s been so many times in our long distance relationship within the 5.5 years, where people have said things that have really been hurtful and I think that people don’t really realize that these things can come across (hurtful) mean.

They’d say things like:

What are you going to do now?

Who is going to move?

Are you sure that he’s not cheating on you? (I was never asked this question, but know a friend who was.)

People in long-distance relationships are already thinking about those things anyways. They don’t want other people to remind them of those things.

Don’t let it get to you. I don’t think they mean those things in a bad way, they are just ignorant, and they just say things. Don’t worry about it. Shake off the dust and just move on. You know what you have in your relationship and just believe in it.

If you know someone who is in a long-distance relationship here are some things you shouldn’t say.

Tip #4: Don’t get scared of the future.

Yes, it’s okay to look to the future, but don’t let it freak you out too much. Johan said in the video, “I let it happen to us about one year into our relationship and it almost had some very bad consequences. Because I got scared of what was coming.”

Instead just set short term goals like “When are we going to see each other again?” and little things like that. Work toward those and also concentrate on living just every day life – day by day. Work on your relationship then and make it as good as possible, as strong as possible, because that’s where you’re at, at that moment. Make the most of it. Enjoy where you’re at. It might not be the ideal situation, but you can still enjoy your relationship and make it as good and as strong as you can.

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How To Make A Long-Distance Relationship Work Once The Distance Ends

Congratulations! You’ve just survived a long-distance relationship. The hardest part is over. You reached across the distance and held onto each other and now you are together in the same place.

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What To Do Now, Since The Long-Distance Is Over

You just defied the social norms and made your long-distance relationship work. You are finally together! You aren’t separated anymore, which is great, but it’s different and it will take time to get used to each other’s quirks. It’s normal to go through a little phase where there will be a couple small quibbles and misunderstandings about small things you both like or don’t like.

That’s the thing with any relationship though, there will be small little problems and small victories, but the great thing is that you get to work through it together in the same place, which in the long run is much better than across the distance. And yay, for making it to a place where you can work on those things in the same place.

Trust me it will get easier once you both work together and listen to each others likes, dislikes, and thoughts.

There is no longer that separation between the two of you, called distance. When you were separated by distance, if there was a problem you could get off the phone or Skype with each other and you could go do your own thing and not really worry about the problem. But now when there is a fight you have to share the space with each other and learn how to work together to make things turn out right.

What You Can Do To Make The Non-Distance Work

Here are a couple things you can do to make the transition from distance to no distance sweeter.

  1. Pay attention to each other and talk things through.
  2. If certain things bother you about your partner, like how they do something around the house, let them know in a kind way.
  3. If there are things that bother you about each other, plan a family meeting for once a week where you can talk out the issues in a respectful manner. The main thing is that you continue to show respect to each other when talking about problems.
  4. Pray and read the Bible together.
  5. If your partner says “If you could please do this for me… or it bothers me when…” Listen and don’t argue. Take it as a kind request and know there is a reason why it probably bothers your partner. There is no need to argue.
  6. Do special things together to grow your relationship like: Get take-out and have a picnic on the living-room floor and go for a walk together after work.
  7. When your partner is talking, really listen. Set down what you are doing and pay attention to what is being said. Give your partner your full attention. This makes a person feel loved.
  8. If you have the day off and your partner is working today, clean the house, so it’s nice and clean for when your partner gets home. Then they won’t feel stressed when they get home and you’ll have a relaxing evening together.
  9. Do small little wonderful things for each other. Get her some flowers and chocolate just because. Or get him a gift that he’d enjoy.

The main thing to making a long-distance relationship work after the distance is just to continue going the distance for each other. Thankfully you don’t have to hate being held apart by distance any longer. Sometimes people forget that even though you are together now, that you don’t have to go the distance for each other anymore.

Wrong!

If you continue to go the distance for your love, then you’ll not only make the non-distance work, you’ll thrive!

Remember, this is a great thing! You survived the actual distance.

What things do you do to show your partner you love them?

Do Long Distance Relationships Work? And What You Need To Know.

So You Are In A Long Distance Relationship?

First off… I want to congratulate you. You are strong and I am proud of you. I can image that since you searched “Do long distance relationships work?” that you are wondering if you and your partner can make it the long haul.

I want you to know that you are doing something that many people could never do.

You are going the distance for your lover and you want to make it work. Good on you.

I’m sure you want someone to help you through this time of being away from your love. A guiding hand of some sorts, because I know it can be difficult. It is difficult and without encouragement, trust, and love. But I want you to know I am here for you.

Let’s jump in.

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About 5.5 years ago I also went searching online for helpful tips and encouragement that would help me and my boyfriend to survive our long distance relationship against all the odds that seemed to be ever presently in front of us.

Do you feel the same way?  If so…. Continue reading “Do Long Distance Relationships Work? And What You Need To Know.”

How To Encourage Someone To Travel Abroad

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See the little green drop point? That is where I studied abroad. In Sippy Downs, Queensland Australia (Near Brisbane)

I never thought I’d fly half way around the world. The idea of it frightened me.

In High-School, I met many exchange students. I could describe most of them in this way: full of life, young, living with families they didn’t know, and most likely they spoke a different language. I am sure you know what I mean?

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Me, Silvia, and Cassidy (My sister) with Leif Erickson (A Viking Statue, in Minot North Dakota)

I was always drawn to these people because there was something drastically and beautifully different about them. Not just because they were from other countries and that their accents were gorgeous! But because they’d seen so much of the world and in my eyes they were much further ahead than those who had never been out of their state.

It was one day in the library at my Middle School that changed my  8th grade year. Her name was Silvia Atanosava. And she became my best friend that year!

My family took her under our wing. It was almost like I had a big sister. She was an exchange student from Bulgaria which, before meeting her I had never even heard of.

After seeing her come here on her own, I found myself thinking, “Maybe, I will go study and travel abroad someday as well.”
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If your answer was yes to any of these questions, read on – because I have some things that will help you reach your dreams. 

While in Mexico on a family vacation in 2009, I decided I wanted to stay there and maybe study abroad. As soon as I got home I looked into the qualifications of studying abroad in certain countries.

I’d studied Spanish in High-School, but hadn’t been speaking it or listening to it for a few years.

Which got me thinking… Hmm… where is it warm… and where they also speak English.

Only one place hopped into my mind as swiftly as a kangaroo.

It was a continent and country of it’s own. A red country full of desert, a country full of accents, Kangaroos, Koalas,  Dingos, and giant poisonous spiders and snakes. Or at least that is what I thought!

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What You Shouldn’t Say To Couples In Long Distance Relationships

Note from Devin: In this post, I dig deep into something that really annoys and hurts people in long distance relationships. This post will help you communicate and love people in long distance relationships in a way that will strengthen them in their long distance journey.

I sat quietly in the tour van as the lady in front of me talked loudly about how her daughter lived abroad in Asia. She went on to say that she’d been teaching there for a year.

“I am so happy she didn’t fall in love with anyone abroad.” She clucked to the other women around her.

This is something I just love putting people on the spot with. Because I truly hate it when people try to make couples in long distance relationships feel like they are a mutated untouchable alien just because they love someone from far away.

Listen up people.

It’s not okay. I am sure that you don’t want to knowingly hurt people, but couples in long distance relationships are already undergoing something that many people will never be able to understand or even imagine. I know, because I’ve experienced it.

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What Hollywood Forgot to Tell You About Long Distance Relationships

I had a great year abroad, but soon I had to go home.

I was halfway between Hawaii and Australia when all I wanted to do was jump out of the plane to ease the restlessness in my legs. I walked down the aisle every few hours and that wasn’t enough.

Couldn’t I be there already? I aimlessly scrolled through the movies and found countless romantic comedies about couples living oceans apart. I chuckled silently, while thinking, Hollywood doesn’t even have a clue when it comes to what long distance relationship couples go through.

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Long distance relationships are romanticised much like everything else in Hollywood. Hollywood knows about the excitement and beauty of long distance relationships, but they stop there. They really don’t show the truth behind the long distance relationship story!

Many people fall for someone with a different accent thinking it will be easy like it is in the movies. And long distance relationships can in fact, be blessings, the couple just needs to equip themselves properly.

Communication is the key

It’s extremely important for those in long distance relationships to keep their communication line open. Technology has made it easier for people in long distance relationships.

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Technology shortens the distance. Whether a person is across the country from their lover or across the world… communication will hold them together. Whether that be through text messages, snail mail, Skype, or picture texts  of each other throughout the day. Continue reading “What Hollywood Forgot to Tell You About Long Distance Relationships”

A-Z’s Of Surviving A Long Distance Relationship

Have you ever felt worried or nervous that your long distance relationship wouldn’t work out? Have people ever made you feel like it wasn’t possible?

There were a few times in my life when people made me feel like I was a lunatic for believing in love across the sea. And I don’t really know why people do this to couples in long distance relationships. But I am here today as proof that long distance relationships do indeed work out. My fiancé and I have been in a long distance relationship for about 5 and a half years. And now we are finally in the same country and are no longer separated by the ocean. We made the long distance relationship work.

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I want you to know that it’s possible too. If you are in a long distance relationship or know someone who is, these are the ABCs to making a long distance relationship work for you. I want you and your partner to thrive, not “just” survive.

The A-Z List To Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work

A. Attitude –

A lot of thriving in long distance relationships comes down to your attitude. How you speak to your loved one and also how you speak about him/or her when you aren’t talking to them.

How we kept a good attitude:

Every day in a long distance relationship it’s vital to stay positive with a good attitude. I’d try to look for the positive in the moment that I found myself in. Enjoy the moment you are in—here and now.

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B. Believe –

You also need to believe in your relationship and what you two are working towards. Because there are plenty of people who will try to make you feel like what you are fighting for isn’t worth it. Believe in yourself and your relationship. Know that for certain.

How we believed:

Once I met this lady and she asked me why my boyfriend was in Australia. I kindly responded with, “He is finishing up school there.”

“Oh, was he just studying there?” She asked.

“No, he actually lives there.” I responded.

“Ohh….” She said, opening her eyes wide. A judgy look came across her face as she said, “Thank goodness my daughter didn’t fall in love with someone when she went abroad.”

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You can imagine how comments like that sting. I mean here we are already struggling and fighting to make our relationship work and then a stranger comes and gives me the stink eye with some rude words. It’s crazy how those kinds of comments hurt, but I had to stay positive about my relationship… because If I didn’t who would?

I had to stay positive about my relationship… because If I didn’t who would?

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If you aren’t in a long distance relationship, be sure to read this post on the different things that you should avoid saying to couples in long distance relationships.

C. Communication –

Set up a regular time to chat face to face. Johan (Yo-hun) and I spent many hours Skyping and Facetiming. Also, make sure that you give them the best of your time.

How we communicated:

A few months back, I was really busy with work and wedding planning. So much that I wasn’t able to chat until 10pm or even later. This wasn’t good because it made my fiancé feel like I didn’t care about giving him a good chunk of quality time.

We spoke about it and then decided how to fix things. It really helped.

Make sure you:

  1. Set up a time on your calendar where you both can come together to talk about your day.
  2. Don’t chat too early or too late. It’s so easy to have misunderstandings when you are tired, which we all know is an easy time where fights could enter.

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D. Dream –

Dream about what your life will be like together. But, don’t just dream.

It’s super important that you figure out the end result. It’s not really ever the easiest conversation. If you don’t figure these things out you’ll feel like your never moving toward an ultimate goal where you’ll be together. Because that is the ultimate goal in a long distance relationship.

How we dreamt:

We sat down pretty early in our relationship to figure out how many years it would be till we’d be able to get married. We figured out that we’d wait till he finished school, which landed us in 2016.

Yes, at first that seemed like a long stretch goal, but we had to make it work.

So it’s important that you figure these things out:

  1. Are we going to get married?
  2. When will we finally be together?
  3. What do we have to go through in order to be together? (Example: visas)
  4. Who is going to move where?

E. Encouragement –

Kind words always make things work easier. Sometimes all you need is a hug, but that can be super difficult when your hugger isn’t nearby.

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So make a habit of encouraging your partner. It’s like a verbal hug.

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How we encouraged each other:

There were many times in our relationship when a hug would have really helped encourage each other. But, as you all know that isn’t really possible when it comes to long distance relationships.

Johan was finishing up university as an architect student. If you are or know an architecture student you know that it’s a stressful degree filled with a lot of hard work.

I encouraged him with words and also tried helping in any way that I could. In 2012, I was in Australia and helped Johan finish a project one night. I was helping him but felt like I wasn’t being too helpful.

Food for thought: Everyday ask yourself this question: “What can I encourage my partner in today?”

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F. Fighting –

Make sure that when you have arguments or fights that you talk it out. Don’t wait too long to fix a blow-up.

Some people need time to think about arguments while others need to talk about it right away to feel better. Which ever you are, make sure that you respect your partner and get the problem figured out as fast as you can.

How we dealt with fights:

Fights and arguments are never fun. Ever.

But, sadly they happen. I found that most of ours happened when we were either tired, sleepy, or tuckered out. Guess those are all other words for being tired.

Number one rule: No fighting after 9pm.

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G. Goals –

Make sure you set short term goals for when you can see each other. If you have things to look forward to, together then it won’t seem as long.

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Some things you could plan for:

  1. What are some ways that we could meet up?
  2. Where could we meet up?
  3. What are some things that we could do together?

How we set goals: Johan and I spent a lot of our time together on small trips or doing fun activities. It’s really nice, because then when you are a part from each other you have memories to get you through the tougher times.

H. Help –

Get help from people around you who believe in you and your long distance relationship. It’s like setting up a safety network.

Who can I trust with these things?

Find someone who, after speaking with them, makes you feel good and like you could conquer the world with your partner.

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How we found help:

My mom was super helpful in encouraging Johan and I in our relationship. We are so happy she was able to listen and inspire us to move forward.

I. Inspire  –

Be your partner’s biggest inspiration. Encourage them in their dreams and goals. Tell them that they can do it. Give them ideas.

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Share interest in the things that are interesting to them. They will love you more for it.

How we inspired each other:

As you all might know, I (Devin) am a writer and I love writing fictional stories. Johan once made me something from the book I’d written and gave it to me for my birthday. I remember crying huge tears. Good ones. He’s also created covers for my books to inspire me forward in my writing.

J. Jump –

Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith in a long distance relationship because you aren’t always going to have the answers for it.

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How we jumped: 

There are quite a few times that we had to jump. In the beginning of our relationship, we decided to try a long distance relationship out. There were also times where we didn’t know who was going to move where, but we tried staying positive amidst that knowing that we love each other and that something would work out sooner or later.

K. Kindness –

Speak with kindness to your partner. Try not to tell them everything that they need to fix. Share with them what they are doing right. There is a shortness in the world of kind words.

How we showed kindness: 

Johan always sent me little text messages with pictures of beautiful flowers. Throughout the day it was just nice to receive little messages or pictures showing you that your love was thinking of you.

Also, Johan sent me flowers and chocolate. It really showed that he was thinking of me and it really surprised me.

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L. Loyalty –

If you want your long distance relationship to work out you must stay loyal to your partner and not put it in a compromising situation.

How we stayed loyal:

Johan and I are both very loyal people and wouldn’t put ourselves in compromising situations.

If there was ever a moment where one of us felt like the other was treading in dangerous waters we’d bring it out to one another as kind requests.

M. Money –

It needs to be said. In a long distance relationship, you are going to need some money. There are times that you are going to have to go with little so that you can save up for travel tickets. That might mean not going to movies as much, because your ultimate goal is to go see your partner.

How we dealt with money

There were times in our relationship across the ocean where one of us or both of us didn’t have a job. This is super hard especially when the only way you’ll get to see your partner is to buy a $1,000 ticket to fly across the world.

A few months ago, Johan signed up to work for Uber and he really enjoyed that. Plus, it really helped to make some extra cash to help us move toward our goals.

N. Notify –

Let your partner know if you are struggling with something or let them know if you are having a tough day.

How we notified:

Whenever I was having a tough day I’d chat with Johan and tell him about what was troubling me.

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O. Optimism –

Stay optimistic in your relationship. It’s one of the major important factors that will keep the heart pumping in your relationship. Always look for the sunbeams in the sky. Give up on looking for the garbage in the ditch. Start looking for the flowers growing amidst the landfill.

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How we stayed optimistic: 

I really loved it when Johan sent me uplifting text messages with optimistic messages on them. It made me so happy knowing that someone really truly loved me and cared about my mind.

P. Present –

Enjoy where you are at the moment and what you are doing. There will never be a time like the present ever again. So enjoy and love the moments that you are in right now.

How we enjoyed the present:

There are many times when one of us would say to the other “I wish 3 months would have passed already so that we could be together.”

While that’s a nice gesture that you want to be together in 3 months time, it’s still not good to wish away your time.

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We would then remind each other that we need to enjoy the moment we are in. That we need to enjoy the time with our parents and to work hard toward our goals.

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Q. Quality –

When you guys get together, spend quality time together since now while you are apart there isn’t a quantity of time that you can spend together together.

How we spent quality time: 

We’d take many road trips. Going out on the road to new places during the weekends. During the week, we’d go for walks in the morning and at night. Sometimes we’d even do some small little trips to the beach or movie theater.

R. Right –

Don’t always try to be “Right” in your relationship. Don’t say something just to say the last word. Instead have an open communication like adults.

How we worked on “right”:

Sometimes it’s been difficult to not have the last word, but one thing I’ve found out is, that it’s easier to brush it off your shoulder and to continue the conversation.

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S. Surprise –

It’s important to surprise your partner. Surprises always make things interesting.

How we surprised each other:

Johan planned out a surprise visit with my parents. He flew over to America and surprised me at the airport. Then he also fit in a surprise proposal. Want our whole engagement story?

It was like a fairytale.

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T. Trust –

You have to trust your partner especially if you are in a long distance relationship. If you can’t trust each other then you are going to have problems.

How we trusted each other:

We just sat back and trusted each other. I know that might sound crazy to some people. But honestly trust is having a reliability on someone else and that they won’t hurt you.

If you are worried about being hurt, sit down and have a discussion with your partner about it.

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U. Unicorns-

Yes, I actually wrote unicorn there. Unicorns are magical and unique happenings in your life. Look for things that sparkle and shine in your life as a couple.

How we spotted unicorns:

There were times that Johan sent me letters or packages. It brightened up my day whenever I got something in the snail mail from him.

One time I created a puzzle with a photograph of us on it. Then I sent him a multitude of letters with 2-5 puzzle pieces in them. (I’d written a message on the back of the puzzle as well so the only way he’d get to read the whole message was if he got all the pieces and put it together.

That was fun!

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V. Victories-

Celebrate the small and large victories. There are plenty of small victories.

How we celebrated the victories:

W. Win –

Don’t try to win arguments. Try to win your relationship. Every time you stop trying to win arguments you win your relationship.

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How we won:

We are still together. 🙂 And whenever we have fights we still try to win our relationship.

How you can win your relationship too:

The secret sauce to winning your relationship is to focus on each other. Don’t focus on being right all the time.

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X. X Marks The Spot –

It was difficult to find a word for “X”. But X marks the spot reverts to treasure. Pirates always were looking for buried treasures.

Be a treasure seeker in your relationship. Look for the good things in your partner and tell them what those things are.

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Y. Yolo – 

You only live once. Every human being only has one life.

Live each day as though it were your last. Show your partner that you cherish them and do things to show them that you do.

How we yolo: 

At the very beginning of our relationship, we decided to make a jump for the long distance relationship. We knew that we only have one life so why not make a jump toward each other over the sea. And it worked.

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Z. Zazz –

Keep your relationship interesting. Do special things for each other to show how much you care and love your partner.

How we created zazz:

Once I wrote out a bunch hints on post-it notes and then went into the grocery store. I told Johan to come into the store when I texted him.

I texted Johan a message: “Come into the store. Find the _____ section for your next clue. You always warm my heart.”

Then in what ever aisle I wanted him to come to, I’d put a sticky note on the food item that he’d find. On that sticky note I had written a special message just for him to bring him to the next clue.

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He really enjoyed this and has mentioned it countless times in the past.

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You Now Know The A-Z List To Making Your Long Distance Relationship Work

All in all, long distance relationships can be difficult, but when they are given a little tender loving care, they have the ability to shine and sparkle giving joy and happiness to both people involved in the relationship. It also sets a lighthouse on full-brightness so that other people in long distance relationships can find healing and happiness. You become a role model to others in relationships when you make something like this workout.

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Were there any letters that I left out? If so, share some that you have found helpful in the comments.

Current Life And Writing Goals

Life has been so busy hasn’t it?

I am working at CoSchedule. Still loving it. Also starting my creative side-hustle business and am writing as much as I can.  I am getting married in June, so I’ve been really busy getting all the wedding things figured out from bridesmaid dresses to DJs and wedding cakes.

Also, my fiancé, Johan will be coming to the states on the 30th of this month. SO SOON! Guys and gals… long distance relationships really do work. 🙂

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5 Things I Hate About Long Distance Relationships

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There are many amazing things about being with someone you love. But sometimes It can be hard, especially when you are separated by an ocean. Here are 5 things I hate about long distance relationships & some things that will help you through them.

1. Saying “See You Later” at The Airport

It’s one of the worst feelings a person in a long distance relationship can experience.

You embrace one another tightly. Almost as though you’ll never let go, but then you must.

Que: tears…

You watch them go into security. They move farther and farther away from you until you can’t see them anymore. Continue reading “5 Things I Hate About Long Distance Relationships”

3 Things ‘The Princess Bride’ Taught Me About True Love

My deepest wish for every woman in the world is to find true love. I know that many people don’t believe in “True Love”

wuvIf you’ve seen The Princess Bride, you know this line well, “Wuv, Twue Wuv!” and that it really means “Love, true love!” I honestly wish they made more movies like this. Actually, I think tonight after I finish a bunch of editing I am going to watch it.

I know that true love exists and that it is real.  It’s a love bonding two people together who love and respect each other more than anything. (Click To Tweet) I know it exists, because I know true love. I have a true love.

True Love, The Princess Bride, Princess, Love, Long Distance Relationships, Engagement, Proposal, Engaged Check out my fairytale moment from 2014, here!

When I was younger I dreamt of meeting a man who would protect me, love me, and fight for me because I was worth it, to him. That I meant that much to him. I guess you could put it, that I wanted Westley to tell me “This is true love — you think this happens every day?”(Click To Tweet)

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