Johan and I recently took a big step.
Entrepreneurship is filled with dreams, possibilities, and risks.
Throughout my life, I’ve never wanted to live cooped up in an office. I’ve always wanted to be out and about. On an adventure, to make an amazing life for myself and others. So in this post, I want to share how to go against the status quo and how when you do, people won’t understand your reasoning. Stand strong and chase your dreams. Mine was freedom.
How To Stand Against The Status Quo
I recently chatted with a traveling freelancer and she said that many times people will ask her “where are you traveling now?” or “When are you getting a real job.” Things like that really sting.
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I guess I’ve always been against the status quo, because what’s so amazing about following some trail that a million others have walked in front of you? Yeah, sure it will bring you to a safe destination. I’d rather get off the well-tread paths and bushwhack.
You see so much more anyways. It makes me think of a time that I went GeoCaching in Glacier Montana with my dad and brother. We left the trail and followed the coordinates. Yes, at some points we felt like we were lost, at other points we saw amazing views we’d never have seen if we hadn’t left the trail in the first place.
This also makes me think of Robert Frost’s poem “The Road Not Taken.”
The Road Not Taken
BY ROBERT FROST
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
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Living A Life Apart From The Status QUO
When I was in Highschool, my parents took me out of the public school and they home schooled me. At that time people asked my parents questions and wondered how my siblings and I would be socialized. At that moment, I was introduced to this weird situation where people seem to think they can voice their opinions about the choice you’ve made.
This also happened again when I started dating a cute South African Aussie, while studying abroad. Then we were in a long-distance relationship. That created some people who didn’t understand why we chose to do that, from both Australia and America’s side. Why is it that, when ever something different is introduced to someone’s life, they automatically want to prove it’s wrong, just because they aren’t doing it or that’s not how they’ve lived their life?
Just as my friend said, that people ask her all the time, “When are you going to get a real job” when the fact is, she has a real job. She’s getting paid and yes it gives her the chance to travel and see the world, but isn’t that better than sitting in a 9-5 job where you are constantly wishing it were Friday, instead of enjoying the adventure of everyday? I know I’ve definitely experienced hearing the same doubt-filled thoughts of other people. Especially when I was in a long-distance relationship with Johan. People are afraid of things that are different. And that’s really sad.
But that is something I can’t have a part of. I want to live outside of the status quo. It all makes me think of this video/ song from High School Musical. Yeah, I never thought I’d quote High-school Musical, but honestly it’s really sad. Why can’t people be who they want to be or chase their dreams? Without getting all this “Hush… Stick to the status quo.”
I Am, Living Me
Johan and I have chosen the life outside the status quo and we are excited about it. If you have a dream you’ve always wanted to do or if you’ve always wanted to travel the world. Have courage.
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That’s why we chose to start the entrepreneoral journey now. If not now, when? Because right now we don’t have kids and it’s the perfect time.
I recently had a conversation with my husband that went a little like this:
“I don’t like disappointing people.” I said.
“Devin, the only person you should be afraid of disappointing is yourself.”
At that moment my mouth fell open, pretty much like this:
That is so true.
As a people pleaser, I’d live my entire life to please others and then what does that do for my life? My goals? And dreams? Nothing.
My Tips For Standing Up Against The Status Quo
1. Be respectful. Always. Some people just don’t understand your goal/dreams
2. Something I recently learned “Don’t take advice from someone you wouldn’t want to switch places with.” So if you want to be a traveling entrepreneur, don’t ask a receptionist at a corporate job for advice.
3. Stay positive.
4. Know what you want. And why?
5. Pray about it.
6. Get support. Make sure you have some support.
7. Prove them wrong. If people don’t think you can do it or if they don’t support you. Prove them wrong. SHIP IT.
8. Set up a schedule that works for you.
9. Follow your schedule. Don’t divert from your plan!
10. Look at what’s going well, what isn’t, and what can be improved every week. Change the things that aren’t going well and the things that can be improved!!
What about you? What are some things that help you stand against doubt and fear?