In this journey to become the best and healthiest version of yourself you will be tempted by your Fat Inner Child. In this post, you will read about how you can start pushing back on your chubby little friend.
I want you to get out some paper and a pen. You are now going to write a letter to your Fat Inner Child. Tell them what you really think about them and how you are going to combat them. When you are done with the letter, put it where your temptations are. Do you have a cookie jar full of Mini Reeses Cups like I do? Then fold it up and put it in there. Do you binge watch TV shows all the time? If so, wrap the note around the remote control.
P.S. Be sure to share with your family what your note is. It might just encourage them to write a note to their Fat Inner Child.
Okay here goes mine.
“Dear Fat Inner Child,
I am writing this letter to you right now, because quite simply I am sick of you. I know you really couldn’t be bothered, because you love laying on the couch resembling a burrito wrapped in your favorite blanket binge watching Gossip Girl. You have all the sugary sweets and salty yumminess within arm’s reach. You extremely rather be doing that everyday rather than getting up to go for a run.
I know you’d probably rather scoop out as much food as you’d like onto your plate, even if you aren’t THAT hungry instead of sticking to the recommended serving sizes.
The thing is though, I’d rather not reap the punishment you deserve. I am not going to let you have control over my choices. I have a choice. I am not going to take on the pounds you aren’t willing to lose.
I will make you obey me.”
Okay, now it’s your turn! If you feel comfortable, share yours in the comments.
Have you ever read a book and noticed the main character or one of the characters having similar characteristics with the author?
I know I have!
And I’ve created characters who have similar characteristics to mine.
This can be a super useful form of inspiration when creating characters. Look into yourself. There is a ton of information in there.
In this blog post, you’ll learn about creating characters from your unique characteristics, likes, dislikes, and more.
First off, let’s do an exercise.
Step #1. List Your Characteristics, Annoyances, And Likes
What characteristics are unique to you?
What annoys you?
What kind of things do you like?
What are some rants of yours?
Write out your answers to all of the questions from above. You might even think of your own questions, as well.
Here is my list:
Dislike for people with certain names because I’m always disappointed with how they turn out to treat me. It’s like a name curse. As soon as I meet them and they say “Hi, my name is….” and I am secretly thinking “Great… here goes another ruined friendship or failed opportunity.”
Dislike it when people don’t reason and think about things before they speak.
Hate how negative and full of lies social media is.
Hate the US vs THEM mentality of today’s society.
Step #2. Now Pick One Of The Characteristics
Use that one characteristic to inspire you to write a paragraph in first person, from a person who is fully focused on that specific topic.
I’m picking the first one.
It really bothers me that certain names are just a mismatch for me. It’s like the universe keeps handing me bad apples in the form of people. People with these same names never seem to fail — they disappoint me.
Step #3. Answer These Questions About Your Character
When I was little, my dad told me about these 5 magic words you can insert in front of any sentence to get people talking and answering questions. Which are “Who, what, where, when, and how.”
Here are the questions to ask of your characters:
Who are they?
Why are they so annoyed with this?
What do they love?
What is their job?
Step #4. Now Write A Paragraph Creating Your Character
Here is mine:
It’s my first day as an intern at a my dream job. The lady who is going to train me, steps out and offers her hand. “Hi, my name is Shelia (Name is not name I hate… I am not sharing that here.) My stomach lurches and does somersaults as soon as her name leaves her lips. The last time I met a Shelia, which carved this hatred for the name, was when Shelia was convicted of murdering my aunt.”
So, see what I did there? I took something I hated “that name curse” I mentioned above, and then spun it into a story about a character starting as an intern at a company she wants to work at. Then you find out why she hates the name.
*Note: I don’t dislike the names that I mentioned above, for a matter such as my character’s above. I made that all up.
Please share the character you created below in the comments section.
I feel like art and the fit life have a lot connected to each other. Art, creativity, and inspiration inspire me to be a better person and when I work out and do the things that make me a better person, I feel more creative. I also feel like accomplishing more.
Today I want to show you how you can create your very own Desk Vision Board. It’s going to be something you can set on your desk at work to remind yourself of who you want to become and to keep your vision and goals fresh and on your mind throughout the day. This can be for fitness or projects you are working on. The one I made for example is to keep my story on the top of my mind. It will remind me to keep writing.
What you’ll need:
Mini canvas + easel (I got mine at Hobby Lobby. The canvas and easel came together.)
Cut out pieces of magazines, newspapers, print outs from Pinterest, and more.
Step #1: Think About Your Goals.
What are your goals?
What’s your vision?
Who do you want to be?
What do you want to accomplish? (Fitness and in life?)
Step #2: What Will Represent Your Accomplished Goals?
What will show your goals as though they’ve been accomplished? For example, I want to lose weight. For that, I’d find a picture of a healthy looking person. Or even some words that stand for the fit life I’d like to live. Or for my example, I want to finish writing this book, so this will serve as a reminder to get it done.
Step #3: Start Creating Your Masterpiece.
Put some Modge Podge onto your canvas and start decorating it with different things. When you are finished let it dry.
After letting it dry, you can come back and add more to it. Or you can add words and phrases with a permanent marker.
There is no limit on this. This is your masterpiece and it’s meant to inspire you to be the best you. Also to accomplish your dreams!
Step #4: Decorate Your Desk With It
Did you create one? If so, I’d love to see it. Share a picture on Instagram and tag me: @devinberglundjoubert
Ever longed for a tightly knit group of friends who love discussing books? And chatting about things that can improve your lifestyle? Like healthy ways to eat better or how to get more steps in a day, while working a desk job?
If so, you are in the right place. Because this March, we will be having a book club focusing on Creating A Fit Life – A Woman’s Guide To Being A Fit Creative In An Unfit World. It will be held on my Facebook page (and Instagram Live), where I will do a Facebook (& Insta) Live video for each section.
If you buy the book, Creating A Fit Life – A Woman’s Guide To Being A Fit Creative In An Unfit World, on Amazon then send me an email to devinberglund(at)live(dot)com (with CAFL Book Club in the Subject Line. This is very important!), with your email receipt to receive the book goody bag that’ll help you reach your creative and fitness goals this month.
Your Goody Bag Includes
Everyone loves a goody bag filled with fun stuff, right?
This is what is included in your goody bag:
Coloring sheets (Worth $30)
3 printable motivational art pieces (worth $20 each)
Creative Reader To Inspire You To Live An Inspired Life Daily (Worth $25)
Video (Worth $30)
= $105 total
That means you’ll actually get $105 worth of awesome goodies to help you on this create a fit lifestyle journey. And all for the price of the book.
Book Club Schedule
The book club will be held at 12:10pm central time and will run for 10-15 mins.
Back when my husband was visiting from Australia (before we were married) we were driving in the hot desert outside of Las Vegas. We were talking about different ideas and one came up about creating characters and showing people how to create their own from the examples.
I feel like some of the best ideas come while on road trips. There is just something so magical, freeing, and inspiring about going someplace new. Our whole conversation got me thinking, and I’ve decided to start a blog series on this, called Character Conversations.
First off, I want to start with some important tips for writing characters and then I will share my first Character Conversations character with you all.
In each Character Conversations post, I will share with you, how I created the character. What I used as inspiration and ideas so that you can turn around and implement those tips to help you create your own characters.
Each writer has an area of strength and I’ve talked to a few who have asked me about my detailed descriptions and my characters. So, I know this is something that people struggle with. Especially if you are more intrigued about writing plot driven stories instead of character driven. I love writing stories that are driven by characters and editors/agents/readers love a story with a strong character—good or evil.
4 Things To Keep In Mind While Creating Your Characters
Your characters are real. Give them real wants and real flaws.
People watch with a pen and paper in hand. Go someplace with a notebook and pen. Sit down and watch people. Just spend some time writing physical descriptions down. Write down facial expressions, clothes, confidence, and anything else you can see.
Ask yourself the right questions. Many writers go to the character sketch before they even know their characters. I’ve never really liked that about character sketches. If you don’t even know your character yet, how are you going to answer those questions? So instead I opt for you asking yourself the right questions to start off with.This makes me think of a time when I was in Australia at a Character workshop and there was another lady there who was participating in the class and she asked, “So who is really talking when you write through your characters. Is it you? Or your character?” So you can see how there is a bit of confusion when it comes to characters.But if you take a little time to wonder and think about your character you’ll have a lot less trouble when it comes to soaking into her or his shoes when you are writing. Take your character notebook with you to your writing desk and ask yourself “How can I combine these physical descriptions and features into a character for a story or book?
A word of caution. Be careful if a real person inspired a made-up character. I’ve heard of writers who have been sued over things like that. So if you want to write a character who might have similar characteristics as a person you know, then be sure to change it up enough that they would never know it was them.
Now, since we have the tips out in the open, let’s create a character.
I went out and did a little people watching as well.
Step #1: Come up with the character list.
This is the list I came up with: (remember, when you do this, you might be watching one person or many people. Take ideas from everywhere.)
frizzy hair tied up in a short pony tail that sticks out of her head like a palm tree in the back.
eye-glasses on the tips of her nose.
a fan of gossiping
Step #2: What story do you want to tell?
(Write a character story sentence. This will tell who she/he is, what they want, and what their purpose is in the story.)
With this character, I can see her being the Demon Secretary In Hell. She takes her job extremely carefully, and she loves hearing the juicy gossip to tell the Office Demons she works with. She is the Devil’s secretary, except he could care less.
Once you write down your character story sentence, you can start writing.
Step #3: Start writing your character.
Edith Blackridge took her job seriously as she scribbled in her scrawling handwriting on the H.E.L.L admittance forms. They’d been getting plenty of new members. A glob of slime fell from the cavernous ceiling above and onto her desk with a splat. She humphed while pushing her glasses up further onto her greenish nose. Her hair was a knot of grey and black hair.
This was happening more than it wasn’t and she’d complained about it already. That janitor better get better at his job or else the boss isn’t going to be happy, she grinned while turning to look at the office door behind her. A sign hung on it, with blood red writing, which said: Satan.
Now, it’s your turn!
Step #1: Come up with a character list.
Step #2: What story do you want to tell? (Write a character story sentence. This will tell who she/he is, what they want, and what their purpose is in the story.)
Step #3: Start writing your character.
Each time you do this, you will come up with a different character and if you are using this exercise to come up with characters in a book that you are currently writing, think about what the purpose for the character is in the larger scheme of things.
How will they either help or cause more pain for your protagonist. There has to be a reason to have the character on the page.
Did you do the exercise? If so, answer the three questions in the comments section below. I’d love to see what you come up with.
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If you are reading this, then there’s a good chance you know someone in a long-distance relationship (LDR). Maybe it’s your daughter or son, a sibling, a parent, a friend, or even a co-worker.
You want to help and encourage them. You want them to know that you are there and believe in them.
Having been in a long-distance relationship, I know how fragile and unprotected from the stupidness of the world you can be (the couples in LDRs). One of the most annoying things, is when people doubt the relationship all together. They show it through their facial expressions. And it hurts.
That’s why it’s super important to know how to bless and serve the LDR couple in your life, because words and sour experiences have an affect on the couple in the long-distance relationship, whether people know it or not.
In this post, I’ll also share with you, what you should and shouldn’t do. After reading this, you’ll also know how to educate others on loving those in long-distance relationships better.
What You Can Do…
Listen to them when they talk.
Bless them with money or help them raise money. (Sometimes they won’t mention how difficult it is to get tickets to go see each other.)
Ask about their partner and how they are? Ask questions like, “What school does he go to?” or “What does she do for a living?”
Ultimately be there for them. Show them you care.
Send them messages to let them know that you are thinking of them.
Note to understand: Understand that a couple in a long distance relationship is just like couples who are in the same place, except they can’t get a hug from each other when having a bad day. Which makes it even harder.
Ask them “Who is moving?” (They won’t know this sometimes. It will only inflict worry and stress on them.)
Ask them “What are you going to do now?” (They sometimes won’t know this answer either. And goodness gracious don’t ask them, “What are you going to do now? Break up?” I mean, what kind of a question is that? It’s a rude one. And just so you know, a pastor once asked me that. I stopped going to that church after.)
Don’t let your doubts affect their actions, thoughts, or moods. Don’t make faces or say things like “That’s interesting.” with doubt in your voice. Never compare their relationship to “normal relationships” (Instead say something like: same-city relationships.)
Oddly, I feel like the world isn’t completely comfortable with the idea of people dating across the distance. You’d think people would be more open to it, with it being a very tech-savvy world that we are living in.
Here are some of the ways people treat couples in long-distance relationships and sometimes unknowingly:
Being against the relationship right away, because it’s not “normal” and they aren’t in the same place.
People looking down on you because they think you are too young and oblivious to real life and love.
Rude statements and not having enough grace.
Asking difficult questions that the couple probably hasn’t figured out yet.
What are some things that you’ve done to bless and serve the long-distance relationship couple in your life?
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I always feel like Instagram is a mini vacation away from everyday life in the form of pictures.
Instagram is a fun and relaxing way to share your world with the rest of the world. You can share what it’s like from your point of view. In this blog post, I want to share with you some of my favorite Instagram tips, that will make your Instagram sparkle and shine.
1. First Off, Go On An Adventure!
It’s important that you share the goals you want to accomplish and also the steps you are taking to get there. The adventure is made up of the steps it takes to get you there.
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3. Share Something NEW!
Share something you aren’t sharing on other social platforms. When you share something new and exciting you aren’t sharing elsewhere online people will want to follow you to learn more, because you are giving them useful content that they can use.
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4. Reach & Show People You Care!
Reach out and connect with other people. The most important thing in social media and marketing is to focus on the relationships and friendships! That’s really the only thing that is important—relationships. It’s not about numbers or page views.
It’s about connection to other people who are interested in the same things you are. Building a community is super important!
Check out the people who follow you and join the conversation. Just get to know them. And do not name drop your blog, or Facebook page, or the book you wrote, in their comments. That’s tacky and will turn off people around you!
When people comment on your pictures or comment back to you on other people’s pictures make sure you comment back. Show people you genuinely care!
Don’t write “Cool! Follow back.” on people’s Instagram comments, as it’s rude. Honestly, when people write this on my posts, I just delete the comment and avoid the person.
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5. Tidy Up Your Hashtags
I’ve found that it’s difficult to have a calming aesthetic when you have to read captions that are filled with tons of different hashtags. And then when there are a bunch of hashtags at the bottom as well.
If you’d like to clean up your hashtags, read on for a great tip!
3. Then copy that and paste it into a comment under your picture.
6. Heart People’s Comments!
Show your commenters that you appreciate their comments by clicking the heart button and also responding with a heart-felt response.
7. Save Insta Posts With Bookmarking
If you want to find people’s posts quicker all you need to do is bookmark it. In order to do that, click the photo you want to bookmark and then click the bookmark icon.
When on your Instagram page you’ll be able to find all your bookmarked images by clicking on the bookmark icon shown below.
You’ll then see all your pictures bookmarked images here.
9. Share An Insta Guest! (& for bonus fun Insta guest on someone else’s page.)
Have guests on your Instagram page and offer to do the same for them. Make sure that their Instagram post matches your Instagram feed style. Set up a theme you’d like them to follow on their post as well as the hashtags. Then set a day to publish their post and visa-versa.
Make sure you get these things from them.
Topic of post?
Now you’ve got some fun ideas to freshen up your Instagram feed.
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It’s so easy in life to set aside things to do later. You know, not responding to emails right away or not washing the dishes as soon as you are done using them. Or my personal favorite, the clean clothes that get piled on the floor and is the communal closet everyone pulls from throughout the week.
You know you’ve done it before? I know I have. It’s so easy to say, “Oh, I’ll do it later!” but when you put the things off it really just makes more work for you to do LATER.
You know what I mean?
I have a planner full of to-do lists. This is something that I’ve been working on and have found to be really helpful.
I want to encourage you to do it now.
Get an email from a coworker? Then respond to it right away. (Set a time that you’ll check your email a couple times a day, then you won’t be responding all day long.)
Once you finish eating, wash the dishes right away and put them away. Same goes for when the dishwasher is done washing.
A pile of bills come in the mail? Go through and sort them.
Finish drying the laundry? Fold them now.
The reoccurring word is NOW!
What things are you putting off? Write a list of the things and next time, do it right away. It will save you the stress of remembering to do it later.
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I’ve heard so many people my age say “Oh my gosh, can you believe we are almost 30? We are so old.”
And inwardly I am thinking, “Wait! I’m not old. I feel as full of life as I did when I was 16 or 21.”
Yes, it’s insane how fast the years go by, but I’m not going to get depressed, because I get to live a year more.
I like to look at it this way:
Each year, when I celebrate a birthday it’s celebrating the whole last year that I just lived along with the excitement and joy of a new year of my life.
This is such a blessing. Years are blessings. And each year you get, is a chance to live and make a difference in a big way.
So no, I am not going to be depressed because the number is almost 30. I am so thankful to God that I’ve been able to live my life and that I’ll get to continue living it.
Just wanted to share my birthday thoughts with you all. I spent a lovely afternoon with my mom shopping, supper with my parents, brother, and hubby, and then I went to a movie with Johan. It was lovely.
I hope that each day you wake up and see the day as a blessing. Look past the small things in life that stress you out. Live and enjoy your blessings.