Money Problems, Marriage Solutions – Book Review

Life has been so crazy busy lately, but I’ve been trying to read more. I recently read Money Problems, Marriage Solutions by Chuck and Ann Bentley, through a blogging program I’m a part of.

I absolutely loved the cover. I mean, look at it?!! What a cool way to illustrate a married couple handling their money, a blue and pink piggy bank. So cute.

This book was good, but It really focused a lot on uniting your marriage first, and aligning your finances through that. Which is good, but I really wish there’d been more on money management and tips for solving those.

Although I did enjoy where they spoke about saving an emergency fund for 15 months, rather than 3-6 months. That seemed smart to me. Another tip I really loved was that they would match however much their children saved. So that would definitely encourage them to save, which is a really good thing.

But, this would be a wonderful book for newlyweds or engaged couples to read. I would definitely read their other books, but was expecting more on solving money problems.

 

Excuses, Excuses…

“Oh, I’m too busy.” or “I just can’t at this time.” or “I’ll do it someday.”

Have you ever heard someone say this? Or maybe you’ve thought it yourself?

I just want to stop you there. I want to stop my brain from ever uttering those words ever again. It really BOTHERS me whenever I hear people give all the reasons for why they can’t achieve their dreams. Or why they can’t do something.

As a leader in my company, I’ve noticed this more and more recently. It strikes a chord, because I know I’ve said it sometime In my life.

The thing is though, cemeteries are filled with unfulfilled dreams and goals. I don’t care how much work it’s going to take, but you better guess it… I’m going to achieve my goals and dreams!

So, from THIS MOMENT. We aren’t going to make excuses anymore. We are going to achieve and chase after our dreams. Right?

What are you avoiding with excuses?

I want you to take out a notebook and I want you to write up the different things you’ve been avoiding?

Why are you avoiding them?

Most of the time we make excuses because of two things: either we are scared or lazy.

Now, I want you to achieve your goals. Throw out the excuses!!!

I’m Planning To Elevate In 2018

I picture myself hiking up a grand mountain surrounded by beautiful trees, chirping birds, and wild animals. That peaceful sound of silence with the wind blowing through my hair. In some areas of the hike, you are the ONLY person on the trail. Revitalizing.

I know from experience when climbing a mountain, you can be overwhelmed by the gorgeousness of nature. That’s a good thing, because it helps you forget about the strenuous activity you are partaking in to scale the mountain.

Last year I came up with a word for 2017. It was reach. (On Wednesday, I’ll be sharing a post on how my 2017 word turned out.) When I started brainstorming what I want to achieve in 2018 and what my word for the New Year could be, I started thinking about climbing a mountain and how peaceful it could be.

And yet how tough climbing a mountain can be. With all the things, I am going to achieve this year, I decided the mountain image was perfect for inspiring my word because amidst how hard climbing a mountain would be, it would all be worth it in the end. I’ll make it to the top and look back, seeing how far I’d climbed. I’ll be happier, healthier, and more successful.

So I decided my one word for 2018 is:

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Elevate: | ˈeləˌvāt |

verb [with object]

Raise or lift (something) up to a higher position. • Raise to a more important or impressive level.  Increase the level or amount of (something.)

Why Elevate?

  • I want to get closer to God than I’ve ever been before and to do that I need to climb that Holy Mountain to get closer and spend quiet time with him. Because through that, I’ll be happier and more succesful.
  • I want to elevate to another level when it comes to creating relationships with people. I want people to see my genuine interest in them. Whenever I talk to someone, I want them to have my complete attention. So they feel loved.
  • I want to elevate my physical health and mental thought life so I’m an all-around better person.

What’s your word for 2018?

What I Learned By Doing The Grandparent Program

Over Christmas weekend, I hand-delivered gifts to a nursing home. My husband, sister, mom, and Gma came with as well. We dressed up in fashionable Santa hats and came to town to bring cheer, love, and presents to all of the residents at the rural MN.

What I learned…

1. Residents are extremely thankful and just want to be loved.

It was amazing to be there the day before Christmas Eve. We were able to just spread joy with them all. I wanted them to know we cared.

My mom handed out a gift to an elderly man in a wheel chair and he started to cry. At that moment my heart broke all over for them.

I’m so glad we were able to go see them.

2. People MOSTLY, want to help out!
I’m seriously blessed with knowing so many of the right kinds of people. People who just want to help and bless! So blessed.

3. You find out who you want to be like and who you don’t…
Christmas season tends to bring out the best and worst in people. And when you are in charge of a charity, you tend to see both sides.

I tend to just use that as an example of who I’d rather be like! One person I know jumped and said “Oh, sign us up for three!”

I want to be like that! I want to help those in need without worrying about how it’s going to affect me and just know that because of it, I will have blessed someone else.

4. I felt so good after delivering the gifts!

I am definitely going to do this again next year! Who knows, maybe I’ll do it again in a few months! It really felt good to give back!

Thank you to all of my blog followers who adopted a grandparent! It meant so much to them and I’m glad I was able to be a part of this!! <3

Why you should set goals…


setting goals, goals, Womens Health, Devin Berglund, Writing, Writer, Fitness, HealthThere are things I know I have to finish and get done, but then I tend to put them off to the last moment? I just started thinking about these things this week, because of the Health Challenge, I’ve been doing.

The Health Challenge this week was making sure I drink enough water each day. Each day I’ve gotten up earlier and I’ve also felt more energetic and all because I’ve been watching my calorie intake (food journal), drinking more water, and eating greener foods, less sugars and starches, and last, but not least I’ve done some form of exercise everyday for at least 30-45 minutes along with some strength training to build muscle. It’s also helped because I have an accountability partner and others that encourage me along the way. Becoming healthy isn’t achieved through dieting… it’s a lifestyle change. Have you set goals to accomplish today? This week? This month? Start now! Continue reading “Why you should set goals…”

Character Conversations #7: Take From Fairytales

Every month, I write a writing prompt post, to encourage you guys forward in your writing and character crafting. I call these posts “character conversations!” Today we will be talking about fairytales!

Don’t you just LOVE fairytale stories?

I feel like a lot of times in life people might say “Why get so into fairytales. Life isn’t a fairytale. Come down to earth and live in the real world.”

I’ve heard people say that to others before.

But, how untrue. I feel like if anyone were to understand the trials of reality, it would be fairytale people and creatures, if they were real. I mean, look at it this way… Ariel the little mermaid in the original fairytale, actually never ended up with her man and turned to sea foam at the end of the story. Cinderella’s step sisters cut their toes off so they could fit their feet into the glass slipper. Morbid, right?

And don’t even get me started on Hansel & Gretel OR Pinocchio. Those characters would all KNOW the realities of the real world.

Our world is grim at times and inside the fairytale stories, all those characters know that. And those characters have a lot to offer when it comes to inspiration.

I want you to choose a character from a fairytale that you love. Make it a unique one.

Let’s use Maleficent for example.

I absolutely love the movie Maleficent. It shows the story from her point of view. I want to encourage you to write about a character from a fairytale that you love, but here’s the twist. Use one of these ideas.

  1. Make your villain your hero.
  2. Make your hero your villain.
  3. Tell the story from your villain’s POV.

Reach into who they are from the original fairytale and create a new life for their character. Maybe it could even be an origin story for how said character became the character we all know today.

Let me know how it went. Share it in the comments!

 

 

Our Best Long Distance Relationship Advice

Johan and I gathered our best long-distance relationship advice for you, because we know how rewarding long-distance relationships are and want to encourage you!

I know that from the beginning of ours, I’d wished someone would have told me how to make ours the best we could.

Continue reading “Our Best Long Distance Relationship Advice”

We Are Getting Our Book On Long-Distance Relationships Published!

As I mentioned earlier this week, we are writing a book on long-distance relationships and how to not only survive them, but thrive in and outside of them.

Our goal with the book, is to not only show the reality of being in a long distance relationship, but also show that people can not only survive, but thrive in them. We feel like when people just use the word “survive” it kind of gives off a negative connotation, implying you just make it through. The thing is though, that we didn’t just make it through, we got stronger and stronger. And now we are together in the same place. We want to help others do the same.

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What’s This Long-Distance Relationship Book Have For Me?

Whenever you buy something you wonder what that thing has in it for you. It’s true, isn’t it? So, I want you to know that we thought of you when writing this, because we want this book to help you through the good and tough times.

So, “What’s in it for you?”

We understand you. We’ve walked the walk, we’ve skyped the skype, we’ve called the call, and we made it work through five and a half years from opposite sides of the world. We had plenty of good times and bad times and came out of it with a thriving relationship. Stronger than we’d been in the beginning of it all.

This book will include stories of how we made it work, tips and tricks for making the best of it, and ways you can make your long-distance relationship THRIVE.

We also know what it’s like to be discouraged by people who don’t understand long-distance relationships. I was sick of searching online for encouragement on how to deal with that as well. This book will also be good for them to read. We will have a chapter on how to love and encourage the long-distance relationship couple in their lives.

We Are Going On Indiegogo

Some of you might not be familiar with Indiegogo. It’s a crowdfunding site, where entrepreneurs can get help in funding their projects and getting more people to know about it as well.

Johan and I are so excited about our book, that we want to make sure couples, family, and friends of couples in long-distance relationships find and read this book. So we want to put it on a platform that’s going to help us move it in front of the right people.

I’ll share the Indiegogo page soon, as we are getting it put up currently. I plan to have it live closer to Christmas.

Are You In A Long Distance Relationship?

Guess what?

Johan and I are writing a book.

And it’s not just any book. It is going to be full of tips on how to make your long-distance relationship THRIVE, as well as, some stories from our long-distance relationship.

We originally wanted to put out a long-distance relationship magazine, but figured a book would be a better place to begin. Here’s a little vlog video that we created last summer.

We aren’t currently releasing new videos weekly, but I have some saved up that I will share soon!

When the launch of our book gets closer, we will be doing some NEW videos!

Recommended Reading: Hollywood’s Biggest Lie Is About Long-Distance Relationships


We were in a long-distance relationship for 5.5 years. I met Johan when I went to study abroad in 2010. We made the distance work for us and now we are together in the same place.

Recommended Reading: An Introduction, In Case You Don’t Know Our Long-Distance Relationship Story

Why did you name your vlog “Wolfland Magazine?”

We were inspired by wolves and good qualities that they held.

Wolves have three attributes that we really value and believe has a lot to do with successful long distance relationships. And crazy enough, they actually all begin with a C.

Commitment: Wolves are committed as they mate for life.

Community: They have wolf packs, which is a community that will help them thrive in the dangerous wild.

Communication: They also communicate across the distance with howling.