Has anyone ever copied you? It’s not a nice feeling to have a part of you mimicked by someone else. It isn’t fun to have your soul yanked out of you and then acted upon by someone who isn’t you, isn’t fun.
Keep reading to find out some helpful tips on how to deal with copycats.
How To Deal With Your Copycat
You are unique. Be confident in it. Take a stand for who you are.
“A man who stands for nothing, will fall for anything.” -Malcolm X
1. Don’t share secrets with your copycat.
This may be hard, especially depending on how close you are to the copycat.
You have to think whether it’s really worth sharing your ideas with them. I’ve chatted with people about writing ideas before and a few days later I find out that they are writing something a little too similar to my story, which isn’t fun.
Sometimes it’s just not worth it.
So from experience, If they ask you about your story don’t tell them about it. If they asked you where you got your shirt, be discreet and say you don’t remember.
2. Sell yourself the BEST you can
If your copycat tries copying things that you are doing or something you are creating, don’t let them sell it better than you.
It was your idea originally. Be the unique person you are and sell the idea the best you can. They won’t be able to stand a fighting chance. Since you are the one who got the ideas in the first place. There is only one – you!
3. Encourage them in their own uniqueness
Maybe you are shopping with them and see some awesome clothes that you want to get, but you know if you point it out in front of them they’ll buy it before you can even say “But, I was picking that out for me.”
Point out outfits you think might look nice on your them. Say things like “Wow, this outfit would look amazing on you!” or “Green really makes your eyes pop.” You’ll find that they’ll eat all your compliments up.
When you do this, you are helping them see what is unique and original about themselves. I believe sometimes that copycats have a tough time identifying their uniqueness, because they are always trying to be someone else. Then when they are in the dressing room trying it on go get the clothes you wanted to try on.
4. Which kind of copycat do you have?
There are a few different kinds of copycats: One is nicer to deal with, while the other can be a thorn in your side. But those two can admire you or be jealous of you for either your appearance or your ideas or even both.
One just admires you. For this kind of copycat, try to be gentle and kind. Encourage them in finding and showing off their own unique person.
While the other is just jealous of you. For this copycat, if you can, try drop them. They really aren’t good for your health or well-being. I know it can be hard, especially if you have a relative who is this kind of copycat.
Have a relative like this copycat? If they bring you down and make you feel horrible, I recommend trying not to see them as often as you need to. When you do see them, just keep your mouth shut and smile. That will bother them. If you do anything, encourage them in the things that might make them unique.
Appearance Thief: This one wants to be you, when it comes to your style and personality.
Idea Thief: The idea thief loves your ideas so much that they want them for themselves.
5. If nothing works… talk to them
Sometimes the only thing you can do is talk to your copycat. If you’ve tried other things, but it doesn’t work you may just have to talk to them straight up.
Sit down and talk to them. Tell them that you didn’t appreciate it. And then distance yourself from them.
How Do I Talk To Them?
Sitting down to confront your copycat can be scary.
Here are some helpful things to tell them:
- It really bothers me that you copied me _________________ (State the time).
- You are a unique and creative person. I just don’t understand why you feel like you have to copy me. I love __________, _____________, and ________________ (name characteristics about them that you love or see could be great if they focused on it.) about you!
- I really love you as a friend, but I can’t continue to hang out with or talk to you about these things because you just steal my ideas and I don’t appreciate that at all. So if you can’t stop copying me, I can’t be your friend anymore. (If they stole your idea and don’t want to stop copying you, you might have to tell them something like this. It may be difficult.)
The First Copy-Cat, That I Remember
I encountered a copy-cat for the first time (I believe) when I was in 5th grade when I was sitting on the bus with my best friend. We were bundled in our fluffy winter jackets with our backpacks at our feet as we spoke. I was so excited to show my friend an idea I had. I trusted her. Of course, she wouldn’t steal my ideas. I reached into my unzipped backpack and brought out a small locked journal.
This was one of the first times I chose to share something I had written with someone other than a teacher or my parents. I opened the clasped journal with a kitty on it. I flipped the page to the spot I wanted to show her. Small pictures of little fairy people who I’d drawn along with a story that went along with it.
She got onto the bus the next day and then she showed me a picture she had drawn. She said, “Devin, I am writing a story too.” A hint of panic struck my stomach. She wasn’t the type to write stories or draw. Her story was identical to my story. I didn’t think this kind of thing could happen. While looking at her drawing on the paper, it was an exact replica of the drawing in my story.
When I saw the picture she’d drawn a hint of panic struck through me and curdled my stomach. Her story was identical to mine and the pictures of the fairies resembled mine. At that young age, I experienced the fear that came along with someone stealing your ideas or work.
This is something that I never thought would be possible. I thought everyone had their own unique ideas and that they wouldn’t ever think of stealing other people’s ideas. I sure know I wouldn’t.